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How To Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

It’s time to stop comparing yourself to others! Comparing yourself can be destructive to your self-esteem, detrimental in the pursuit of your purpose, and downright depressing!

Yet, you probably find yourself playing the comparison game quite often. Does it tend to happen most when scrolling through Facebook or Instagram? Yeah, that’s what I suspected.

We all know logically that (most) people only post their best moments in life on social media, and edit out their worst moments. But emotionally it’s hard for us to remember this. As a result, we end up comparing our worst to someone else’s best, while forgetting others also have a worst.

If you don’t learn how to stop comparing yourself to others, you will never reach your own potential.

So how can you stop? Let’s look at the following case study to find out.

Stop Comparing Yourself (A Case Study)

Artists of any medium (performing artists like dancers, actors, singers and songwriters and visual artists like painters, sculptors, and photographers) tend to be much harder on themselves and compare themselves more to others than non-artists do.

Jessica* was no exception. I met Jessica when I was giving a presentation on the topic of personal branding at the Nashville Arts & Business Council. She was a songwriter attending the event along side various other artists, including everyone from graffiti artists to jewelry makers.

After I led the group through the three phases of my personal branding program, Jessica broke down in tears. She quickly let the group know her tears were happy tears.

She explained how she’d been comparing herself to all the other songwriters in Nashville since she moved to town to pursue her passion for music. And now, this program helped her see she doesn’t have to compare herself to her competition. She said it taught her how to better pinpoint her own uniqueness.

Jessica felt relief and was freed from the damage she’d been doing to her self-esteem with unnecessary comparison.

How you can stop comparing yourself to others

While artists might compare themselves more to their peers than you do, I’m sure you find yourself doing so more often than you’d like. So what are some things you can do to stop?

One, when you get the urge to pick up your phone and start scrolling and comparing, instead put your phone down and go find something to do that will make you forget to check your phone.

This could be something you enjoy so much you easily lose yourself in it. Like, reading a new book, taking a walk, writing in your journal, making something with your hands, trying a new hobby, etc.

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Two, realize everyone has a unique way of doing the same things others do. When you do those things in your own unique way, no one else can do them like you can. It’s like having your own thumbprint on your process.

Three, discover the things you’re good at and how you do them uniquely. If you need help discovering what you’re good at, I encourage you to check out my personal branding program for yourself. You can go through it in one of three ways:

  1. Purchase the paperback book on Amazon.
  2. Get the book for free with purchase of the on-demand video course.
  3. Get personalized one-on-coaching to help you with your specific needs and questions on discovering your unique skills and developing your personal brand.

Restore your self-esteem by being productive in the pursuit of your passion and purpose instead of wasting your time comparing yourself to others!

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*Name has been changed for privacy.

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Mindfulness: How to Be More Successful By Living In the Moment

I was all harnessed up and clipped in to the cables at the new Adventure Park Nashville when it was time to step out onto my first tree-to-tree bridge element.

I paused for a second and thought, there’s no way I can do this. It seemed not only uncomfortable, but also scary.

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In the past I’ve had no fear learning how to climb at various climbing gyms. I’ve never minded the heights and always loved getting to the top for the sense of accomplishment and so I could repel down (my favorite part!).

But this was different.

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Instead of looking at the holds right in front of me or looking up to where I was going, I had to look DOWN to see where and how to get my footing. This made me realize how far off the ground I was. Also, when climbing walls or rocks, they don’t sway and move like the bridge elements do.

This was a whole new experience for me.

Trying Melts Away Fear

I was tempted to turn back before I’d even started. But, I knew I would not be happy with myself if I did.

I had to at least give it a try.

Besides I’m always preaching to my clients about doing things that take them out of their comfort zone, and I also live my life that way as much as possible. This was another reason why I couldn’t turn back.

After taking the first step, my fear melted away and I completely forgot about the distance between the ground and me.

I just took my time and put one foot in front of the other.

When I reached the end of the first bridge element, I became a little more confident. I did it!

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Mindfulness: Learning to Live in the Moment

Even though there were several elements ahead of me, I had to take each of them one at a time, asking myself what’s the best way to get across without losing my balance.

My confidence grew and grew after successfully completing each element.

While working my way across one bridge, I couldn’t think about the next bridge. I had to stay focused on the moment. It’s the simple practice known as mindfulness.

This was an unexpected lesson, and also the biggest take away from the experience.

I never went into it thinking I’d learn mindfulness. I just thought it’d be fun to do something new and to be outside in nature.

But it was a lesson I really needed because I’m the type of person who’s always thinking ahead and planning ahead.

For instance, I eat dinner with the question bouncing around in my head, “What do I want to make for dinner tomorrow night?” instead of just enjoying the meal right in front of me.

I need to practice mindfulness and live in the moment more often.

Not only for my own benefit, but also because I want to serve as a positive example for my clients.

Avoid Thinking Too Far Ahead to the “What ifs?”

So many of my clients are facing career changes and life transitions.

They know they have some bridges to cross, whether it means moving from one career to another, moving from working for someone else to working for themselves, etc.

For them moving from one stage to the next can seem scary and nearly impossible at first.

The path to get from one stage to the next can appear very unstable. It may not be clear to them how they should proceed or what step they should take first.

They often start thinking ahead to the “What ifs?”

Instead of focusing on what’s within their control at this very moment, they’re asking:

  • “What if I don’t fit in with the people at a new company?”
  • “What if I’m not as successful in a new industry?”
  • “If my business idea fails what will I do?”

Gaining Stability in Your Career Transitions

What I quickly realized with each bridge element was what appeared to be “unstable” was actually very stable, especially when I did my part to make things more stable.

I wasn’t going to be able to keep the elements from swaying and moving. But, if I:

  • slowed down and focused on one element at a time,
  • kept a light grip on the cable so my hands could easily slide as I moved,
  • put one foot in front of the other while positioning my feet in a way that kept me balanced,
  • and shifted my body weight so it was working with the movement of the elements instead of against them,

I was able to get across a lot easier.

And if I happened to slip or lose my balance, my harness would keep me from falling.

It would’ve been a small failure, but it wouldn’t have been the end of the world.

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How to Get to the Other Side Successfully

If you’re facing a career transition and it seems scary trying to cross over to what’s next for you, remember these four things:

1. Embrace mindfulness and learn to live in the moment.

Embrace your current situation no matter how scary, uncomfortable or unstable it may appear.

Relish this time to re-evaluate your approach to things, to try different strategies, or to learn something new.

Don’t rush through this stage to the next one just because it’s uncomfortable. Doing so could cause some slip-ups that will likely slow you down instead.

Just stay focused on the present as you put one foot in front of the other.

2. Keep a light grip.

Instead of keeping a tight grip on your idea of how you think things should be or should work out, loosen your grip.

You’d be surprised at how much easier you’ll be able to navigate through your situation when you allow some flexibility in your results.

And you’ll be open to opportunities you otherwise would’ve quickly dismissed.

3. Be willing to make a shift when necessary.

If you’re stuck, be honest with yourself and admit you’re stuck.

Then, take steps to shift your approach so you can become unstuck.

This may mean asking for help or hiring a career coach to point out any blind spots or to show you a more effective way of getting across your bridge. A career coach can also teach you how to work with your unique challenges instead of against them.

4. Rely on your support system.

These are the people who aren’t going to let you fall even if you slip up or lose your balance. This can include your family, friends, professional network, career coach, etc.

If you need help with any of the above, feel free to reach out by completing the paNASH intake form. Click here to get started.

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The Best of My Favorite Nashville Things

During my first visit to Nashville nearly 12 years ago, I could sense it in my bones that this city was on the cusp of becoming the “it” city.

I can’t say what exactly spoke to me. It was just a feeling that I couldn’t shake.

When I returned home from my visit, I decided some how, some way, I was going to move to Nashville.

Even if it meant sacrificing my proximity to the ocean and becoming landlocked.

Fast forward six months and I was loading up a Ryder truck and hauling my stuff to Music City USA.

Fast forward again to 2013 and Nashville was dubbed “The IT City” by The New York Times.

“There’s a bit of charm and a richness a city the size of Nashville allows for.” recording artist Jennifer Nettles


Like most people who visit Nashville, I became enchanted with everything my senses could absorb.

The grittiness of those determined to pursue their musical dreams.

The friendly folks always willing to help out a stranger.

The energy of creativity afloat in the fields of technology, entertainment, and art.

And the always delicious southern cuisine.


At the time right before my move, I was working as a college career adviser in North Carolina. I leveraged my network in the field of higher education to secure a job in the career center at the prestigious Vanderbilt University.

I also snatched up some real estate before everyone else figured out just how great this city is. And boy, am I glad I did considering the city’s current housing costs and shortages.

Everyone’s moving here, and I can’t blame them for wanting to!


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photo by Joey Martin

Since moving to Nashville, I’ve had experiences I never dreamed I’d have.

I left higher education to start my own business and named it after my new town — paNASH (a play on the French word “panache” and the name “Nashville,” just in case you didn’t get that).

I’ve had the opportunity to get to know celebrities as the real people they are outside of the smoke and mirrors of fame.

I began the best relationship of my life, with Jesus.

I became a two-time published author and #1 Amazon bestselling author.

I got to serve with a local church on a mission trip to the remote jungles of the Amazon.

I discovered my passion for standup paddle boarding.

I made some beautiful friendships, gained a new lease on life, and discovered my 40s are way better than my 20s and 30s ever were!


There are so many people I meet on a regular basis who also felt the lure of the Nashville vibe and couldn’t stay away from here.

So for the 70+ new people moving here EVERY DAY and the millions who visit here each year, welcome!

Here are a few of my favorite Nashville things I want to share with you!


My favorite perk of living in Nashville:

Town and country

Aside from not having to pay state income tax, the biggest perk of living in Nashville is getting to have the best of both worlds in terms of city life and country living.

Only 10–15 miles outside of town are beautiful rolling hills and picturesque lakes with wooded hiking trails, sprawling horse farms, and beautifully manicured golf courses.

In the heart of downtown Nashville you’ll find a Grammy award-winning symphony, restaurants headed by world-renowned chefs, fine art museums, headquarters for various multi-national companies, and professional hockey, football, and soon-to-be major league soccer teams.


My favorite music venue:

The Ryman Auditorium

While I have too many favorite music venues here in Nashville to name, if I have to pick just one it’s the historic Ryman Auditorium, AKA the mother church of country music.

It’s where the Grand Ole Opry began and is now host to some of the world’s greatest musicians and recording artists.

I’ve had the opportunity to experience the goose-pimpling acoustics of this national treasure while attending the ASCAP awards and performances by The Civil Wars, Lyle Lovett, and even my favorite comedian Brian Regan.

After the shows it’s an easy 13 steps across the alley to the world famous Tootsie’s Orchid Lounge for more great live music.


My favorite place for business lunches:

Pinewood Social

Located downtown next to the Nashville Entrepreneur Center and housed in an old trolley barn, Pinewood Social is buzzing with heads of tech startups, freelancers, and entrepreneurs meeting over lunch to discuss work.

But it also provides some time for play with a swimming pool, bocce court, bowling alley, and private karaoke lounge.


My favorite place to learn new things:

Nashville Community Education Commission

The Nashville CEC offers a plethora of personal and professional enrichment courses at affordable prices (some are even free!).

Classes include songwriting and other arts, foreign languages, cooking, career and finances, technology, and more.

I’ve both taught and taken classes with the Nashville CEC.

I’ve taken a financial success class and a copyright law class, and am registered to take a Kung Fu/Self-Defense class this spring.


My favorite Nashville hot chicken:

Hattie B’s Hot Chicken

While all the Nashville hot chicken joints are good, Hattie B’s on Charlotte Pike is my favorite. You can also find Hattie B’s in midtown near Music Row.

My preferred level of heat right now is “hot” but I think I’m about to graduate to “damn hot” with the goal of reaching the ultimate heat level “shut the cluck up!”

If you go, be prepared to stand in line, and know that it’s worth the wait!

My favorite celebrity who doesn’t act like a celebrity:

Vince Gill

Vince Gill is the nicest and most humble man, not just in country music, but in music in general.

While far from being an attention-seeker, he always has a friendly word to everyone at the Belmont basketball and Ensworth High School football games I frequently see him at.


My favorite 4-legged celebrity:

Doug the Pug

This Nashville fur resident has 6 million Facebook followers and 3 million Instagram followers.

Doug the Pug also has his own bestselling book and recently did a book tour in the UK.

His daily posts and regular visits to the Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital bring smiles and laughs to so many faces.

Though he may not be the best role model for keeping my new year’s resolutions, I can’t help but love him and his jolly rolls!


My favorite cafe:

37° Degrees Sth

I’m SO excited about this new place located close to me in Belle Meade!

It’s a Melbourne-inspired coffee house owned by an Aussie couple who, like me, fell in love with Nashville and decided to move here.

37° Degrees Sth is my new favorite place for so many reasons:

  1. It reminds me of my time I spent in Australia about 15 years ago.
  2. Their Avo Mash avocado toast topped with a poached egg is to die for.
  3. AND they have delicious hot chocolate made with Nutella (another one of my favorite things!).

I can’t wait to try everything else they have to offer!


My favorite place to pursue my passion for SUP:

Paddle Up Nashville

I first discovered stand up paddling here in Nashville when I went to Paddle Up Nashville for a beginner lesson.

I was hooked from the first moment! It’s the closest thing to walking on water, and it’s so much fun and great exercise.

It wasn’t long before I stopped renting a board from Paddle Up and bought my own race board from them. The owner was very knowledgeable about what kind of equipment would work best for me personally.

Paddle Up has so many fun activities like full moon paddles, mileage builders, and Thirsty Thursdays. They even had a solar eclipse paddle this past August. There was nothing like staring up at the sky and experiencing totality while laying on my board and floating in the middle of the river.

Nashville is the perfect place to do flatwater stand up paddling. Paddle season lasts from about March through October and sometimes even into November because of Nashville’s mild temperatures.

Plus, we don’t have alligators or sharks in our water!

Click here for my interview with Paddle Up owner Neil Newton.


My favorite patio:

Blue Moon Waterfront Grille

After a day of paddling I often like to walk down the ramp from Paddle Up to Blue Moon Waterfront Grille for a drink or some appetizers.

They have one of the largest patios with one of the most beautiful views of the river and the marina. And of course this being Nashville, there’s often live music going on.

Boaters will dock right next to the restaurant while making a stop on their voyage down the Cumberland.

It’s a nice little unexpected place off the beaten path.


My favorite place to hike:

Edwin Warner Park

There are so many hiking trails in and around the Nashville area, but Edwin Warner Park is my favorite. Especially since it’s only a mile from my house and also connects to neighboring Percy Warner Park and the Harpeth Greenway.

There are miles of both wooded and paved hiking trails that transport you to a serene wildlife sanctuary. I never tire of seeing deer, owls, and other beautiful animals.


My favorite place to bike:

The airstrip at Cornelia Fort Airpark

Most people don’t know there’s access from the bike trails at Shelby Bottoms Park to the Cornelia Fort Airpark, named after the first female pilot to die on war duty in American history.

Even fewer people know this small airport was the one where Patsy Cline’s plane was supposed land had it not tragically crashed in 1963.

Here I can actually ride my bike on the airstrip where planes like hers used to land and take off.


 

My favorite place for comfort food:

Barbara’s Home Cookin’

You won’t find any “gentrified” home cooking recipes here. Just good ole southern comfort food made with love by Barbara herself.

Located just outside of historic downtown Franklin, Barbara’s Home Cookin’ is like going to eat Sunday dinner at my grandma’s house.

But I never know who I’ll run into there.

I’ve seen Clint Black and Lisa Hartman-Black, Olympic gold medalist Scott Hamilton, Mark Slaughter, founder of the heavy metal band Slaughter, and more.

Barbara’s is the area’s best kept secret.

Their food is even better than the famous Loveless Cafe, but without the two-hour wait.


My favorite non-ACC college sports team:

Belmont Bruins Men’s Basketball

Anyone who knows me well knows I’m a big college basketball fan, specifically ACC basketball. Even more specifically Carolina Tarheel basketball.

But since I’m too far away from NC, I get my college basketball fix from the Belmont University Bruins.

I always enjoy visiting Belmont, whether it’s for a program I’m doing for the students, visiting colleagues, or attending one of the games.

The atmosphere of the games is so much fun, and with Coach Rick Byrd at the helm, you can always expect excellence from each player.


My favorite hamburger:

The Pharmacy

I have yet to find a hamburger as good as the ones back home from The Shake Shop, but a close second are the burgers from The Pharmacy in eclectic East Nashville.

Their shady beer garden patio makes the burgers taste even better!

And the only time I ever drink soft drinks is when I’m at The Pharmacy. They make their own old fashioned sodas that contain no caffeine, no preservatives, and no corn syrup. The orange creamsicle is my the best!


My favorite Nashville souvenir and gift shop:

Anderson Design Group Studio Store

Forget the chintzy souvenir shops in downtown Nashville where everything there is made in China.

For something authentically Nashville-made, visit Anderson Design Group Studio Store. Located right next to Centennial Park and The Parthenon, here I can buy original “Spirit of Nashville” artwork by the studio’s owner Joel Anderson.

Click here for my interview with artist Joel Anderson.

I can also find unique local products and gifts with packaging and branding designed by Joel and his team. Merchandise includes Bonga Java coffee beans, Olive & Sinclair chocolate, and more!


My favorite place for happy hour:

Park Cafe

I stumbled upon this sophisticated yet quaint restaurant and wine bar in Sylvan Park while trying to find the perfect place to celebrate my birthday with friends.

We all loved Park Cafe so much.

The wine was good, the food was even better, and they have great happy hour specials on their tapas-style dishes and their drinks.

They were so kind to put us in a private room for my birthday celebration when I didn’t even ask for one. Top-drawer service!


My favorite place for some quiet time:

The Natchez Trace Parkway

Whenever I really need some quiet time to think, I like to take a drive down the Natchez Trace Parkway.

This 444-mile scenic parkway starts in Nashville and cuts through the beautiful terrain in Tennessee, Alabama, and Mississippi leading to the Gulf coast.

I often stop along the way for a view of the Natchez Trace Bridge or for a walk along some of the nearby hiking trails.

My bucket list includes working my way all the way down the entire parkway and making stops at all the historical sites and bed-and-breakfasts.


 

My favorite place to get away from Nashville:

30-A

While I enjoy all Nashville has to offer residents like me, there are times I need a change of scenery.

And like for most Nashvillians, the best get-away is to the South Walton beaches in the Destin, Florida area, specifically Scenic Highway 30-A.

Emerald waters, white sand, sunshine, and scrumptious fresh seafood. What more could a girl need to recharge?

The Pearl Hotel at Rosemary Beach on 30-A

 

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paNASH is Celebrating Its 10-Year Anniversary!

Ten years ago today, I walked into the Davidson County Clerk’s office to get a business license for paNASH. I had no idea what I was doing since I’d never started a business before.

It was scary to say the least. But, I put one foot in front of the other, filled out the form, and paid my fee.

When I walked out I thought to myself, “Okay, this is real now. I have to do it.” My business license was more than just a little piece of paper. It was something tangible that was holding me accountable.

I started working hard on my business part-time while still working full-time. Nine months later I took a leap of faith and quit my cushy career advising job with benefits to pursue my business full-time.

paNASH’s Beginnings

paNASH originally began as an image consulting business working primarily with up-and-coming recording artists here in Nashville. I used my skills from my previous experience as a college career adviser to teach new artists how to present themselves in media interviews, to labels, and more. The additional wardrobe styling piece of the business served as a creative outlet for me at the time.

But after eight years, I started feeling restless in my business and it no longer felt right to me. I couldn’t yet put my finger on why, but I knew it was about to undergo some big changes.

I loved working for myself and knew I didn’t want that to change, but I was burned out on the original concept of the business. And, I’d become extremely frustrated with the way the music industry works. I loved my clients, but I was done with the constant frustrations.

I didn’t know it at the time, but I was being called back to what I loved most and was best at, career coaching. Only this time, it was taking on a new approach. For the full story, read From Fashionista to Passionista.

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paNASH Today

Since making the change to my business nearly two years ago, I’ve been much happier. It thrills me to see my clients gain the confidence to pursue their own passions that have been lying dormant for so many years.

Although they face a series of common challenges while going through the process of pursuing their passions, they start to sense an excitement in the transition to a new life and career. They have a light in their eyes again.

And while I’m also happier, I still face some challenges in my own transition of the focus and mission of my business. One of those is still being thought of as an image consultant. I guess I did a really good job of establishing paNASH’s brand early on. Too good of a job! When you Google paNASH, there are still some things that pop up indicating image consulting. I’ve had to turn away several people seeking image consulting services.

But, I’m using the same branding strategy now that I did then to eventually replace my former brand. And it’s working. Just like it works for my new clients whom I’m teaching how to develop their own personal brand for their career and their lives.

The Importance of a Mission Statement

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. It’s so important to have a brand and a mission statement for yourself. My personal mission statement is:

To boldly pursue my passions and purpose, and to teach, encourage, and inspire others to do the same, resulting in lives overflowing with joy, peace, and fulfillment.

This mission statement helps me to make better decisions regarding both my business and my personal life.

My business’s mission statement also aligns with my personal mission statement. When I changed the mission of paNASH nearly two years ago, it became:

To serve, educate, and encourage you by assisting you with the discovery and pursuit of your passions in a way that honors your purpose and your own vision for success, while amplifying who you are personally and advancing you professionally.

No matter what your goals are, I encourage you to also develop your own mission statement. To learn how, check out my on-demand program on personal branding (45% of proceeds go to Justice & Mercy International). You’ll be glad you did because once you’ve completed the program, you’ll be able to make better life and career decisions. Decisions that are true to your unique passions!

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paNASH is Hiring a Social Media Intern

paNASH is seeking a social media intern who can assist with social media and social marketing efforts. Specifically, we are seeking someone who is well-versed in social media advertising, especially Facebook advertising.

The ideal intern will be able to work independently with the ability to work from home much of the time, but will also receive regular guidance, feedback, and instruction. He or she will also have access to occasional complimentary career coaching for his or her own professional and career development at no charge. The successful intern may also earn a small commission from the business he or she brings in through his or her social media advertising efforts.

Duties designed to help you build your resume:

  • Facebook advertising: create target audiences, help determine what type of ads to promote, and create ads (opportunity to earn a commission for business generated from ads).
  • Occasional LinkedIn advertisement/opportunity to learn LinkedIn advertisement.
  • Promote paNASH’s on-demand programs and one-on-one coaching services via social media.
  • Help re-evaluate paNASH’s social media presence and make suggestions for improvement.
  • Maintain each of paNASH’s social media accounts, including Pinterest and LinkedIn.
  • Promote weekly blog posts via social media.
  • Assist with writing and/or editing weekly blog posts.

Requirements:

  • Must be enrolled in an accredited university and registered to earn academic credit for the internship.
  • Experience in creating Facebook ads and proficient knowledge of Facebook Ads Manager and Audience Insights required.
  • Experience in creating LinkedIn ads preferred but not required.
  • Proven ability to leverage various social media platforms for marketing purposes.
  • Good grammar and written communication skills required.

About paNASH

paNASH is a Nashville-based career coaching service that focuses on helping people discover and pursue their passions through their work. We work primarily with people currently going through career transitions (i.e. post-grad job search, career change, downsize/lay-off, leaving corporate to start their own business, etc.).

paNASH’s ideal clients are those with a creative and teachable spirit needing encouragement and a strategy to step out of their comfort zone and overcome their fear of change. We work with people who feel stuck in or are fed up with the rat race and want to do something more authentically-related to their passions and purpose in life.

How to Apply

Send a cover letter and resume with past examples of proven ability to lorib@yourpassioninlife.com. Deadline to apply is November 15th. Position begins at the beginning of the spring semester.