Tag: career transition coaching


Maintaining Positivity in the Face of Job Loss or Job Rejection

I applied for A LOT of jobs when I was looking for my first “real job” right out of grad school in the late ’90s. About 75 to be exact. And I got about 70 rejections. Rejection is difficult enough. But multiple rejections makes it nearly impossible to keep a positive attitude. Especially when you’re young and you’ve never experienced job rejection before.

I knew I had to find a way to not let it get me down, or else I’d develop a negative attitude that would be evident in my interviews. Going into a job interview with a negative attitude was sure to guarantee further rejection. I had to break the cycle before it started.

I decided for each rejection, I’d tell myself I was one step closer to the job that’s right for me. It also helped to think to myself, “If they don’t want me, why would I want to work for them?”

The Result of Positivity

I finally did get a job offer. It was working in two of my three areas of interest within my industry. I was promoted a year later and got to work in my third (and favorite) area, career development.

Interestingly, I originally applied for a director position even though I knew I wasn’t experienced enough since I was just coming out of grad school. I decided to apply any way, just to see what would happen.

While I got rejected for the director position (for obvious reasons — lack of experience), they called me and said the assistant director position was also open and asked if I would be interested in interviewing for it. I was, I did, and I was hired. A year later I became a director.

This goes to show that sometimes you can apply for jobs you’re not fully qualified for because you never know what can happen!

The Power of Positivity

My mantras made a huge difference not only in my level of positivity, but also in my confidence. They worked so well, I’ve used them in other areas of my life and career. I repeat them when I don’t land I client I want to sign, or when a relationship doesn’t work out like I want it to.

I never knew at the time just how powerful this positive mindset would be throughout my career. I’ve always worked as a career adviser in various capacities. Often I have to encourage my clients who’ve been laid off from their jobs or who are experiencing rejection in their job search. I share with them the same mantras that helped me. Also I remind them that, while they’ve lost their job, they haven’t lost their ability to work.

One client in particular was feeling very angry about being laid off. But after sulking for a few days, she decided to change her view of her situation. She decided instead of calling herself “unemployed” she’d call herself “FUNemployed!” I loved this and encouraged her to embrace that attitude.

Allow Yourself Time to be “FUNemployed”

 
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Periods of unemployment can provide you the time to get some much-needed rest, spend more time with your family, improve your health, be creative with your time, and explore your passions. Consider it a gift, and take advantage of it while you can. There will always be more work to do.

Are you at a place of career transition where you need some guidance? Have you lost your job and need help with the job search? Or do you need help exploring other viable options other than going back to work for someone else? Let’s talk! Click here to complete the paNASH intake form and schedule a complimentary “Path to Purpose” session. I look forward to hearing from you!

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paNASH Named Top 10: It’s What Makes paNASH Unique

As I’ve previously mentioned, I recently had eye surgery. When I first was told I’d need the surgery, I assumed that, even though it was “surgery-surgery” as opposed to a simple laser procedure, it wouldn’t be a big deal. After all, it was out-patient surgery.

Boy was I wrong! Because of how quickly I had to have the surgery, I had no time to do any real research on what I’d be going through. That’s probably a good thing because if I’d known what I know now, I probably would’ve chickened out, and therefore ended up losing my sight in my right eye.

I’ve been so confused as to why my healing period is taking so long. But the more medical staff I speak to, all of them tell me the same thing:  “you just went through a big surgery.” Not only have I gone through a “big surgery,” I’ve also experienced some minor complications from the surgery, making healing time longer and more challenging.

The most challenging part of recovery (aside from the pain and not being able to drive) has been my sensitivity to sunlight. I love being outside when it’s sunny and the weather’s nice. I don’t like the dark. This is why I always choose doing something outside over going to a movie during the day.

But, I’ve had to spend weeks on end sitting inside with the blinds closed. This has brought me down mentally and emotionally, especially on the days when we’ve had 80 temps in February! But just the other day, I received something that lifted my spirits.

paNASH Named in Top 10 of 2017career transition coach

My coaching business, paNASH, received recognition as one of the top 10 coaching services in Nashville for 2017. This is based on Expertise’s analysis across 25 different criteria, including:

  • Reputation
  • Credibility
  • Experience
  • Availability
  • Professionalism

I’m very honored by this distinction, and it’s made me use this time to reflect on what makes my coaching business paNASH unique from other great coaching services.

What Makes paNASH unique:

paNASH provides a “hybrid” approach.

While I’m a certified coach, my background is in career advising. Therefore, I strike a balance between challenge and support. Traditional career coaching focuses only on asking you questions. My hybrid approach provides both challenging questioning to help you arrive at the answers that are within you, along with realistic career advice based on my knowledge and extensive past work experience.

paNASH provides unique and cutting-edge career advice.

Much of the job search advice found on the Internet is the same advice from nearly 20 years ago. I know because it’s the advice I was giving to my clients all the way back in 1999. I love staying abreast of the latest career strategies. In addition to the tried and true advice, I strive to provide unique and cutting-edge advice others aren’t currently providing. This makes you stand out (in a good way!) from other candidates who are only applying outdated job search strategies.

paNASH encourages you to think outside the box.

I love helping you unleash your creativity when it comes to your career and your life. I’ll help you see other options you’ve never previously considered that are different from a traditional path. This can lead to both personal and professional freedom, which you’ve probably been seeking for some time now.

paNASH understands the importance of personal reflection and experience.

I could give you numerous career assessments, and sometimes do without overwhelming you. But you’ll never know if something is a fit for you until you’ve spent time in self-reflection to figure out your “why” and in trying new things. paNASH provides you the permission and the space to explore your passions and to figure out your purpose. Assessments are great at telling you what you’re good at, but they can’t tell you what you really want. Only you can answer that question when given a safe place (away from societal and/or family pressures) to ponder and consider what feeds your soul.

paNASH likes to get moving!

Because of my own passion for the outdoors, I’ve been known to hold coaching sessions outside and even on the water. It’s not unusual when the weather is nice for me to take you out for a walk or hike, or even a paddle on my spare standup paddle board. The results have been so beneficial because clients have commented on just how rejuvenating the experience is. It’s helped them gain clarity on their current situation, adopt a fresh perspective, and even confirm for them what their next steps should be. Plus, they got a little exercise, and most of all, had fun!

So, if you’re ready to get started with paNASH, take the first step by completing the paNASH intake form. Now that I’m finally on the mend and spring is nearing, I’m anxious to get moving again and to help you get motivated!

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8 Ways to Make Your Current Job More Bearable

Most of the places I’ve worked at in my career have been wonderful places of employment. However, there was one college I worked for that had low staff morale campus-wide. I was over career services for the students, but oftentimes staff would come to my office seeking job search help.

One of the perks of working for a college or university is your children get to attend tuition-free. The staff members coming to me were the ones who had stuck it out until their children finished school, and were now ready to move on. Because of the low staff morale, they lacked passion in their job. Some weren’t even sure anymore what they were passionate about. 

Are You Tied to Your Current Job?

This is something I also hear today from potential clients. People often contact me because they want to find their passion and get a job they can feel passionate about. However, they feel tied to their current job and don’t see a way out, at least not yet. Have you ever found yourself in this situation?

If you can’t leave your current job yet, there are ways to cope until you can develop an exit strategy. You may even be able to recapture your passion, or discover new passions by trying some of these simple suggestions.

How to Make Your Current Job More Bearable

  • Eat lunch away from your desk. No matter how busy you are, be protective of your personal time, even if you only get a half-hour lunch. If the weather’s nice outside, go eat at a picnic table or under a tree. If you can’t get outside, eat lunch by a window.
  • Have lunch with some of your favorite co-workers. Set a rule that you won’t discuss anything negative or anything related to work during those 30 to 60 minutes.
  • Get a little exercise. Spend part of your lunch or your break taking a quick walk around the building or do some stretching exercises. This will get your blood pumping and lighten your mood.
  • Volunteer to serve on a committee. Every company has various committees that need people from different departments to serve on. Find one that matches your interests and dedicate a reasonable amount of time to it (1 to 4 hours per month). Doing this will get you out of your daily routine and your everyday surroundings, introduce you to new people in other departments, give you purpose, and build your resume for when you’re ready to start sending it out.
  • Ask to represent your office at a conference. There may be money in the budget to send you to a local, regional, or even national conference. Not only will this provide you professional development, it will also expand your network and bring you a change of scenery from your current geographic location. If you can’t attend a several-day conference, see if you can attend a one-day drive-in conference or luncheon. A day away from the office while still being productive can help cure some of the doldrums.
  • Take a class. Your company may offer some continuing education opportunities you can take advantage of. If not, your local community will have numerous classes available to learn a new skill or hobby. This is especially important to make time for (1 to 2 hours per week for only a few weeks) if you’re no longer sure what your interests or passions are.
  • Update your resume. Make a list of all your accomplishments you’ve made in your current job and add them to your resume. Taking an inventory of this builds your confidence in your skills which in turn gives you the courage to start looking for something new. Just make sure you do this on your own time.
  • Stay focused on the things you like about your current job. Look for other opportunities that have those same positives.

Take the Next Step

I encourage you to come up with some of your own ideas. I also encourage you to not let yourself stay stuck. Recognize when it’s time to seek something new and start working toward it now. You want to be ready to move when the time opens up for you to do so!

If you need help coming up with a plan to make a smooth transition from your current job to your next job, start by completing the paNASH intake form!

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It’s a New Year. Time for a New Career?

New Career:  The Question

“How long does it take to realize you’re in the wrong job?” This is a question I came across yesterday on Quora. I’ll share my response with you. But first, I want to ask, are you also wondering if you’re in the wrong job? Or is it already clear you are? Could it be time for a new career for you? It’s a new year, so why not a new career, especially if you already know you’re in the wrong job?

New Career:  The Answer

While the question posed isn’t, “How do you know you’re in the wrong job?” but instead “How long does it take to realize it?”, my response answers both questions:

The quick way to figure this out:

It doesn’t take long if you spend a few minutes taking some personal (and honest) inventory. Here’s an exercise that tends to work much better than a traditional pros and cons list:

  1. Take a sheet of paper and divide it into three columns. The first column should be the things you must have in a job (your “dealbreakers”). The second column should include the things you’re willing to compromise on. The third column should be “icing on the cake” things (things you would LOVE to have in a job, but don’t necessarily need to be content).
  2. Now compare your list to your current job. Does your current job have at least 60% of the things listed on your sheet of paper? Or at least 60% of the things from the “must have” column?
  3. If not, it’s time to start looking for the right job.

I say this because I always tell my clients you should love at least 60% of your job. Nobody loves 100% of their job 100% of the time, but if it’s less than 60%, you’re in the wrong job or career. This helps you stay realistic when considering different opportunities.

I’ve personally found this exercise to be more helpful than a pros and cons list when it comes to big life decisions. It also helps with analysis paralysis and keeps you from overthinking or second-guessing your decisions.

The more in depth way to figure this out:

Another thing that’s helped me personally and also helps my clients is to spend some time coming up with your own personal mission statement. This may take a little time to nail down, but it’s well worth it. Why? Because you can use it as a filter for your decisions.

For instance, my personal mission statement is: “To boldly pursue my passions and purpose, and to teach, encourage, and inspire others to do the same, resulting in lives overflowing with joy, peace, and fulfillment.”

When I’m faced with a difficult decision, I look to see if the choice in front of me supports my mission statement or not. If it doesn’t, I don’t select that choice. This helps me to live authentically and be true to my purpose.

One of the things I do with my clients is take them through a program I call Personal Branding: How to Know What Makes You YOUnique and AWEthentic. Part of that program includes teaching you how to write your own vision statement, mission statement, and unique differentiators, which also prepares you for the interview for the right job!

New Career:  The Time to Decide

So where are YOU in this all-important decision? If you know it’s time for a new career, we can help you figure out your options and how to make the transition. Don’t wait until the end of 2017 where you’ll find yourself in the same situation. Shoot me an email today and we can set up an initial consultation to help you get unstuck and start moving into the right career! 

Does Willingness Trump Readiness?

This is the time of year when we reflect on the past 12 months. We think about the things we had planned but didn’t accomplish. Or, we think about the things we’d like to accomplish in the coming new year. Oftentimes, for the things we didn’t get done, we make the excuse “I wasn’t ready.” That excuse also comes in handy when we feel scared or overwhelmed by our future goals.

We might say (and sometimes truly believe) we’re not ready to start a big goal. The thought goes like this:  “I’m not ready because X, Y, and Z aren’t in place yet.” So first, let me ask you, are you ready to tackle your goals? Now, let me answer that question for you.

Are You Ready?

No, you’re not. You never will be. Why? Because X, Y, and Z aren’t all going to perfectly line up at the same time. You’re waiting for the perfect time to get started, and there’s no such thing as the perfect time. In fact, there are a lot of things you won’t be able to perfect until AFTER you get started. The real question is not “Are you ready?” It’s “Are you willing?”

Does Willingness Trump Readiness?

Does willingness trump readiness? Yes, it does. For things to happen, you have to have the willingness to start with the first step toward your goals. There’s no telling if or when you’ll develop feelings of readiness. But the willingness will be the thing that helps you push beyond those feelings.

Please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying here. I’m not encouraging poor planning. You should always do your research and consider the cost and feasibility of your goals. That’s the first step you should always take. Willingness to take the first step will lead to wise decisions. And, it will keep you from remaining paralyzed and wasting time waiting for the perfect time.

No Regrets

This may sound a little familiar because I’ve blogged about this topic before. I do so because I know too many people who have regretted the things they didn’t do more than the things they did do. I want to encourage people to pursue their goals and their passions in a responsible way. It’s why I do what I do. It says so in my vision statement:

“I believe everyone should find the courage to discover and pursue their passions despite the obstacles they may face. I want to see people actively pursue their passions with flair (‘paNASH’) and confidence, along with responsibility to their purpose in life.”

I can look back on my own life and see what I would have missed out on had I waited for the perfect time to pursue my goals. If I had waited until I was married to go to Australia on a honeymoon like I wanted to instead of just going by myself on a month-long vacation for my 30th birthday, I’d still be waiting because (as of right now) I’m still single at age 42.

If I had waited until I had enough contacts, enough money saved, and a stable economy to leave my full-time job to start my own business like I did 8 years ago, I’d still be waiting. It wasn’t timing that got me off my butt to do those things, it was willingness.

Are you willing?

So I’ll ask you the question again:  Are you willing? If so, the paNASH Goal-Achievement Plan can help you stop procrastinating and start taking steps to not only setting your goals, but ACHIEVING them! Click here to subscribe to the paNASH newsletter and receive a complimentary copy of the Goal-Achievement Plan so that this time next year, you can look back and see what all you can accomplish with just a little willingness!

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