Tag: fear

How to Deal With the Fear That Wreaks Havoc on Your Career

When most of my clients first come to me, they express a lot of fear about their career. The fears shared include fear of…

  • Being rejected by hiring managers
  • Not finding the right job
  • Making the wrong decision on multiple job offers
  • Failing at a new career endeavor
  • Not making enough money to provide for their family
  • Staying stuck in the wrong job

A lot of these concerns boil down to deeper fears, such as fear of…

  • Losing control
  • Losing approval or influence
  • Change
  • Being wrong

You’ve probably experienced at least one (if not more) of these fears in your own career.

Steps to dealing with your fear

The first step in dealing with these emotions is to acknowledge them as normal, common, expected, and sometimes healthy. But letting them take control of you or paralyze your decision-making is when they become unhealthy.

By acknowledging your fears instead of ignoring them or denying them, you can make a conscious decision to take the next steps in dealing with your fears.

For some people, baby steps work best. One baby step you might take is to consider the worst-case scenario, and then ask yourself what the likelihood is of it ever happening, especially given your strengths and problem-solving skills.

Maybe you haven’t ever really taken an inventory of your strengths and skills. If this is the case, then you might want to take this baby step.

Perhaps getting help from a career coach is the best way for you to deal with your fears. An example of a baby step would be to set up an initial consultation just to gather more information on how the career coaching process works.

Other baby steps would be to start first with an online tutorial, or by following the tips in these two blog posts:

1. How to Overcome Your Fear of Risk and Improve Your Life

How to Overcome Your Fear of Risk and Improve Your Life

In this post, I share seven ways to gain control over your fear and improve your career.

2. Five Common Fears (and Myths) of Quitting a Job You Hate

5 Common Fears (and Myths) of Quitting a Job You Hate (Re-post)

This post is for those who may find themselves in a place where they can’t continue to stay in their current work situation, because it’s negatively affecting their health. There are times when some people may have to quit their job without another job lined up. This isn’t the answer for everyone, but if you find yourself in this situation, there are some tips in this post you can implement to survive the period in between employment.

Also in this post, I’ve provided some ways to challenge your fears and assumptions to help you be more realistic about your career. These tips are also and especially helpful for those who don’t have the option to leave their current job yet.

Start today

One thing to keep in mind is the fears you’re feeling will likely never go away. You’ll always experience them to some degree. The goal is to reduce the degree of your fear by doing those small things you have control over.

Taking small action steps will add up over time, therefore subtracting the amount of fear you feel.

What’s one step you can take, or one tip from the referenced posts you can implement today, to begin dealing with your fears?

How to Avoid These 5 Career Mistakes During a Time of Panic

Are you starting to panic a little about the future?

If so, be careful how you make any upcoming decisions about your career. Especially if you’ve lost your job due to the current economic situation.

You can end up making several career mistakes by letting fear or panic drive your decisions.

5 common career mistakes made in a panic

There are five common career mistakes I see people make when they find themselves in a bad job market and panic. These mistakes are:

1. Taking the very first job you’re offered

Allow yourself as much time as you financially can to find a job that’s the right fit. This prevents you from having to go through yet another job search six to twelve months later.

Learn more in my post, “What You Need to Know About Job Loss”:

What You Need to Know About a Job Loss

2. Not negotiating a higher salary or better benefits

Even in a tight job market, most employers expect you to negotiate before accepting the first offer. If you can’t negotiate salary, there are some other things you can negotiate, like better benefits or being able to work from home a few days a month. Either way, don’t make the mistake of leaving money on the table.

Learn more in my post, “How to Make Smart Investments in Your Life and Career”:

How to Make Smart Investments in Your Life and Career

3. Going back to school when you can’t find a job

I remember back during the recession of 2008, a lot of people who couldn’t find jobs went back to school to get their MBA. They thought this would make them more marketable once companies started hiring again. However, it doesn’t always make sense to get deeper into debt. Especially if you don’t know yet if an advanced degree will help you.

Learn more in my post, “How to Know If You Should Go Back to School”:

How to Know If You Should Go Back to School

4. Signing on to an MLM

Speaking of avoiding debt, don’t be tempted by empty promises of earning big money fast by signing up with a multi-level marketing company. This is probably the BIGGEST career mistake you can make. Don’t be swayed when someone you haven’t heard from in forever, all of a sudden wants to get together to discuss “a wonderful opportunity“. It will cost you money both upfront and in the long run.

Learn more in my post, “You Shouldn’t Have to Pay for Your Paycheck! How to Beware of MLMs”

You Shouldn’t Have to Pay for Your Paycheck! How to Beware of MLMs

5. Not taking advantage of career coaching and career resources.

Perhaps your hard-earned money would be better spent on career coaching to help you figure out your next step. paNASH was recently voted as one of the top eight coaching services in Nashville for the fourth straight year in a row.

But if you don’t have the money for one-on-one career coaching, there are several free and affordable resources here on the paNASH blog and in the paNASH video library.

Learn more in my post, “Get Unstuck! How to Know When It’s Time to Invest in a Career Coach”…

Get Unstuck! How to Know When It’s Time to Invest in a Career Coach

…and my post, “How to Know When to Get Career Help”:

How to Know When It’s Time to Get Career Help

More resources

While the job market is uncertain right now, three paNASH clients have been hired for new jobs in just the past few weeks. One of whom who had multiple offers to choose from.

Now is not the time to panic or lose hope. It’s time to do what’s within your control, which includes making good decisions based on logic, not fear.

Here are some additional posts to help you:

Sunday Inspiration: How to Overcome Fear

Welcome to “Sunday Inspiration,” a bi-weekly devotional for those seeking spiritual encouragement in the pursuit of their passions. Each post comes from an outside resource (as referenced). I hope these posts will inspire and motivate you in your life and career in addition to our weekly original blog posts. Enjoy!

A lot of my clients have a lot of fear. Mostly fear of the unknown, such as not knowing what will happen if they pursue their dream to start their own business or to change careers. But below is some wonderful insight on how to overcome such fear. If you’re struggling with fear, especially fear of your future, I encourage you to meditate on the following.

“Faith comes by hearing…the word of God.” Romans 10:17 NKJV

Every day fear and faith will arise inside you, and you get to decide which one will prevail. Fear and faith will always be present in your life, and the one you feed will come out on top.

You can’t expect fear to simply disappear. If you focus on your fears, entertain them, and give in to them, they’ll increase.

The way to overcome them is to starve them. Don’t give them your time or energy. Don’t feed them with gossip, negative news reports, or frightening thoughts.

Focus on your faith, and feed it each day through God’s Word (See Ro 10:17). The more energy and time you devote to your faith, the stronger it will become.

Anytime you feel afraid of something but do it anyway, you reprogram your attitude. In other words, when you feel afraid, it means “go” instead of “stop”; it means “fight harder” instead of “give up.”

The most important step you can take to overcome fear is trusting God to do the thing you think you can’t do.

No matter how strong a hold fear may have on you, it can be overcome. That’s because fear is in your mind, and your mind can be renewed by the Word of God.

Here’s the key: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:2 NKJV). 

Source: https://jentezenfranklin.org/daily-devotions/how-to-overcome-fear-5

Sunday Inspiration: Four Steps to Overcoming Fear

Welcome to “Sunday Inspiration,” a bi-weekly devotional for those seeking spiritual encouragement in the pursuit of their passions. Each post comes from an outside resource (as referenced). I hope these posts will inspire and motivate you in your life and career in addition to our weekly original blog posts. Enjoy!

“The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid.”

Ps 118:6 NIV

First, be willing to take a risk.

Yes, you might be hurt or embarrassed—so what? To overcome insecurity and gain confidence you must allow yourself the freedom to take a chance.

Start writing that book, take those music lessons, stand up and speak at the meeting! Feel the fear and do it anyway!

“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe” (Pr 29:25 NIV).

Second, learn to laugh at yourself.

Get over your obsessive need for approval and acceptance and learn to laugh at your mistakes. We’re all human; stop taking yourself so seriously!

When you make a mistake, be the first to see the funny side, and you’ll find people more supportive than you think.

Third, start thinking realistically.

It’s time to drop the security blanket and realize it’s not all about you.

You are not the center of the universe, and your little faux pas don’t mean that much in the bigger scheme of things. Besides, mistakes are often better teachers than success.

Fourth, reward yourself for little victories.

When you complete a project, reward yourself. When you take advice or correction without retaliating, reward yourself.

Often the people we lash out at, are those trying the hardest to help us.

Get used to the idea that you’re valuable, talented, and skilled, and your worth in God’s eyes is inestimable. Stop scrutinizing yourself through distorted lenses and start seeing yourself with 20/20 vision.

Once you can do that, your fears will be replaced by confidence in yourself and in your future.

Source: https://www.jentezenfranklin.org/daily-devotions/four-steps-to-overcoming-fear-2

Sunday Inspiration: Be Patient

Welcome to “Sunday Inspiration,” a bi-weekly devotional for those seeking spiritual encouragement in the pursuit of their passions. Each post comes from an outside resource (as referenced). I hope these posts will inspire and motivate you in your life and career in addition to our weekly original blog posts. Enjoy!

“When the way is rough, your patience has a chance to grow. So let it.” Jas 1:2-4 TLB

You’re closer than you know to becoming the person God wants you to be. By His enabling grace, you’ll make it through this trial and come out stronger and wiser.

Paul says, “If God is for us, who can be against us?” (Ro 8:31 NKJV).

God is for you! That means you can do the thing you are afraid you can’t do.

The prison bars you’re beating against are in your mind. And since you put them up, with God’s help you can take them down.

God wants to set you free from the fearful attitudes that have held you back for so long, to release you to live up to your full potential.

The right attitude can overcome almost any barrier. For example, the Bible says, “Love never fails” (1Co 13:8 NIV).

Why? Because love isn’t dependent on your emotions or circumstances, it’s a servant of your will. Love is a decision!

Jesus said, “This is my commandment, that ye love one another, as I have loved you” (Jn 15:12). And if Jesus commands it, He will enable you to do it!

Beginning is usually the hard part. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step; after that it gets easier.

But look out—old attitudes will try to resurface and come back stronger than ever. Don’t let them.

Radio commentator Paul Harvey says,

“You can always tell when you’re on the road to success. It’s uphill all the way.”

So be patient. It will take time to get there, but anything worthwhile is worth working for!

Source: https://www.jentezenfranklin.org/daily-devotions/be-patient